CoastLine: Guns And Domestic Violence

Feb 16, 2018

Seventy-seven people killed their intimate partner in North Carolina last year.   62% of those people used a firearm.  That’s according to the North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence, a  statewide nonprofit organization.

A 2015 report by John Hopkins University’s Bloomberg School of Public Health says that “family and intimate assaults with firearms are 12 times more likely to result in death than non-firearm assaults.”

The 1996 federal Domestic Violence Offender Gun Ban, otherwise known as the Lautenberg Amendment, does not allow a person convicted of a domestic violence charge to legally possess a gun. But the New York Times reports: “ …in the two decades since, a large percentage of the perpetrators of mass shootings and other violent crimes have had run-ins with the law over spousal abuse — and have had little problem acquiring deadly arsenals.”

Here to help us explore this today:

Guests:

Mandy Houvouras, is the Direct Services/Outreach Director for Domestic Violence Shelter & Services

Erika Jones, Assistant District Attorney, New Hanover County; prosecutes felony domestic violence cases

Amily McCool, Legal and Policy Director for the North Carolina Coalition Against Domestic Violence

Resources:

Domestic Violence Shelter and Services in Wilmington:

https://www.domesticviolence-wilm.org/do-you-need-help/

Domestic Violence Shelter in Brunswick County:  Hope Harbor Home

https://hopeharborhome.org/

Domestic Violence Shelter in Pender County:  Safe Haven of Pender County

http://www.safehavenofpender.com/

From Safe Haven: 

Red Flags for people who may be in an abusive relationship

• Being physically hurt

• Feeling afraid of your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Feeling isolated, maybe even alone

• Losing your friends

• Changing your behavior because of your girlfriend's or boyfriend's jealousy

• Feeling embarrassed, put down, ashamed, or guilty

• Being threatened

• Feeling manipulated or controlled

• Being afraid to express your own feelings of anger

• A nervous or sick feeling in your stomach when your girlfriend or boyfriend is irritated, frustrated, or angry

• A pounding or fluttering in your chest when your girlfriend or boyfriend is not happy.

• Not being allowed to, or being afraid to make decisions, for yourself

• Noticing that your boyfriend has very traditional (stereotypical) beliefs about women and men

• Noticing that your girlfriend's or boyfriend's beliefs about the position of men and women in society is different from your own

• Feeling as if your date gets too personal or touches you in an unwanted way

• Not having your thoughts or wishes for personal space respected

 

Red flags for people who may be abusing their partner

• Physically assaulting your girlfriend or boyfriend (hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking)

• Intimidating your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Becoming angry if your girlfriend or boyfriend is spending time with other people

• Asking your girlfriend or boyfriend to change their behavior because you are jealous

• Verbally threatening your girlfriend or boyfriend

• Using 'guilt trips' to get your girlfriend or boyfriend to do something

• Feeling unable to control your own feelings of anger

• Making your girlfriend or boyfriend afraid of you